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What Happens When You Get Stressed

The general reaction to a stressful situation, for example getting attacked is; Alarm, Resistance followed by exhaustion.

When you get stressed your body immediately prepares itself;
Your heart rate increases, blood pressure rises and stress hormones are released.
The alarm phase cannot last for long though and soon you move over to the resistance faze.
Stressed with bad habits
During the resistance phase your body releases stress hormones, this faze can last for a long time, but slowly the bodies resources run out and we move on to the exhaustion faze.
The stress hormones released into your body have the side effect that they weaken the bodies immune system, which is why when you are stressed over a long time you are more prone to become ill.
The stress hormones affect the activity of the heart; long term stress can cause severe damage to the linings of the arteries and because of your reduced metabolism, a side-effect of the stress hormones, it can contribute the fatty blockages in the arteries that cause heart attacks and strokes.

When in the exhaustion phase your body’s resources are depleted and need to restore. Your body is at its weakest and your heart, metabolism and your lungs are negatively affected.

As you can see the bodies stress response isn’t made for long term stress, rather it is a reaction to a fight or flight situation. When you are stressed for a longer period of time it is like being prepared for an attack for months, this is why the bodies natural stress defense can hurt you in such terminal ways.

Because of your weakened immune system you are more likely to get colds, other infections and diseases such as cancer, heart disease, diabetes and even sudden death.

Stress causes you to age faster
Aging has been found to be linked to our chromosomes. In our chromosomes there is something called a telomere, every time the chromosome divides (e.g. creates a new cell) the telomere grows shorter. When the telomere becomes too short the cell cannot divide any longer and the cell dies. Cell death is what produces weakening in the muscles and skin, which causes us to age.

Fortunately the body has an enzyme we call telomerase that helps counter telomere shortening, this enzyme can in affect slow the aging process.
When we are stressed though our levels of telomerase go down, this causes us to age faster.

Mental Dangers of Stress
Stress can have severe psychological effects such as depression, anxiety and unhappiness.
People who have lived through highly stressful events, such as the loss of a family member are at high risk to develop the above mentioned diseases as are those who have lived with stress for a long period of time.

You have probably been depressed or anxious many times in your life, which is okay. The problem is that long term stress can make these feelings chronic.

Stress is dangerous
As you can see, stress has many dangerous affects, both mental (depression, anxiety, unhappiness) and physical (higher risk of sickness such as Cancer, heart attacks, strokes, it causes obesity and to age faster).

It is obvious that reducing stress is important, but the question is how.
In the next part of this series we will be discussing the causes of stress and later how to counter act stress.

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The 6 Steps of Change

Change is difficult. Taking action and making your new habit stick is a long process and takes determination, will and courage.
Psychologists have identified 6 steps of change that everyone goes through when making a change.
It isn’t a straight line though; people will go up and down through the steps as they try and change.

Often it takes 5-6 attempts to make change stick.
Changing as the path moves forward
Smoking is an easy example so I will be using it to illustrate the steps.

1. Pre contemplation
At this point the person doesn’t see the problem with smoking, they aren’t aware of the consequences of their actions and/or don’t think them bad enough to care.

Typically people will think about how others have lived long while smoking and cancer as a result to smoking isn’t shown very much on the news so they don’t see much of the consequences.

2. Contemplation
During the contemplation period people have realized that they maybe should make a change and are considering it. They know smoking has negative effects but they still feel that the perceived benefits of change are smaller than the effort it will require to change.

Today not many people are in the pre-contemplation stage when it comes to smoking, because of all the information about smoking most people are in the contemplation stage. They know it is a problem, but not one large enough to care about.

If you want to get someone to stop smoking you need to show them how much the benefits will out way the effort.

3. Preparation
The person has decided to make a change, they often start making preliminary plans and might even be taking preliminary steps towards change.

They might start cutting down on their smoking trying and use less and less cigarettes each day. When people are in this stage they are basically evaluating their options and deciding how they are going to change.

4. Action
The first attempt at change often fails and people fall back into the contemplation or preparation stage, but during the action stage they are trying. They have quit smoking and moved into the maintenance stage.

5. Maintenance
When the person is trying to quit, they don’t smoke anymore and if they can hold out for 3-6 months the change will most likely be permanent.
Usually it takes about 5-6 attempts before it sticks but not always, some people make change happen the very first time through.

What you want to do is stay away from situations in which the bad habit e.g. smoking is promoted. Like visiting the smoking corner at work or going on social events where a lot of people smoke and instead trying to choose situations where people don’t smoke to spend time with them.

6. Change
After completing 6 months of maintenance most of the cravings have gone away, you will now be able to say no if someone asks you to smoke with them, change has happened and you are now a strong person without the need to smoke.

Conclusion
Change can be very difficult but now that you know of the 6 steps you will be able to use them to your benefit. You know what is happening in your mind while you change and you will be able to force change on yourself.

It can be used to start exercising, to stop smoking, drinking, using drugs or to develop other habits.
Whenever you are thinking about making a change, know that you are in one of the steps above and take the appropriate actions to make it easier for you to change and sustain the change.

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To all those who follow this blog by RSS we will be giving away an ebook called “10 Motivational Tips to Keep You Going”.

I want to thank all those who have been following my blog and therefore in whatever way you follow us you now receive a free ebook.

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I hope you will like the 10 tips, I have found them very useful in my life and I am sure that they will help you.

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How to Condition Yourself for Success

Rewards are a powerful way to help yourself become more successful.
When you give yourself a reward you condition yourself to succeed.

Conditioning
Since we are after the simple goal of relating success and a job well done with happiness and peace, classical conditioning as invented by Ivan Pavlov is a great method to program yourself to success.
Pavlovs dogs
Ivan Pavlov showed that stimuli that previously didn’t evoke a response (for example seeing a light on a monitor beep) can be conditioned to invoke very powerful responses (like those of a soldier looking at the radar screen during war times).

This can be used very effectively for success, you can teach yourself to identify completing an item on your list with the happiness by rewarding yourself with a piece of chocolate for every completed task.

How to condition yourself:
1. Chose the habit you want to condition a positive response to.
Make sure to specify what action it is you wish to reward so that you promote that action.

2. Chose a reward for completing the habit
It is important that the reward elicits an adequate response, it has to be motivating, but of course not so large that you go broke because of this exercise.

3. Every time you complete the habit – reward yourself.

4. Once you feel the habit is conditioned – that you feel pleasure just by completing the task, not necessarily because of the reward, start rewarding yourself a little more seldom, once every other time or every third and so on.

Once done being efficient – will make you happy!

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How to Break Bad Habits

We all have habits, tried, practiced and learned behaviors that let us act on autopilot.
They keep us in check and make sure that we can complete tasks on autopilot and still get them right every time.
You can compare a habit to a mental programming that you can access anytime you drive a car, get out of bed, prepare yourself in the morning or go to work.

It lets you think about other things while doing things you do every day, perfectly.
biting nails
The problem is that all of these programmed habits aren’t beneficial.
Negative habits can be hard to break, but are very important to address.

Most of us have a few bad habits like biting our nails, eating when stressed or taking a glass of wine after work every day.
Some of these habits you don’t even notice doing, I had that problem when biting my nails, it came so naturally that I didn’t even think about it.

It is the nature of a habit that makes it hard to shed
Since habits are programmed behaviors designed to make it easier for us to function, practiced behavior becomes hard for us to change.
Our mind has learned to act in a certain way each time it encounters a situation, to unlearn a habit it takes a lot of conscious effort.

Focus on the positive outcome not the habit itself
Focusing on a habit only reinforces it. The mind has trouble with the word “not” it doesn’t really understand the concept, which means that to the mind “I am NOT going to eat” becomes “I am going to eat” which reinforced the habit.

If you are down and depressed, the state of mind you are in when you chose to eat to cheer yourself up (I am using an example here, change the habit and situation to fit your negative habit) don’t even mention food in your mind, instead focus on what you should do instead e.g. “I will take a walk to clear my head” “I will write the things down so that I can look at them” and so on.

This method works and is the most efficient way to shed bad habits in my experience.
Try it and let us know, what do you think?

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The Gratitude List

Everyone has a wonderful life. Even if it might not feel like it right now, you always have something to be thankful for.

Learning to focus on what you should be thankful for takes you focus away from the things you wish you had and helps you relax and be happy.

This gives you the opportunity to work more single-mindedly on bringing more of the positive into your life.
Relaxing
Happiness
Happiness is the most important pursuit in our lives, becoming happy, calm – finding peace, serenity and feeling that your life has made a difference is what we should all be aiming for.

Your life already has meaning, you have changed the lives of everyone you have met and if you have tried to be a good person, you have probably changed their lives for the better.

Many keep themselves down by thinking about what they are sad about, by instead focusing on what you are happy about you become a lot happier.

The Gratitude List
I know that it can be hard to focus on the positive in hard times. I have been in and through hard times, financially as well as emotionally and in relationships.

For example I went through a period where I was bankrupt, completely. I was behind on my rent, my loans and in addition owed about 20 000 USD to family and friends…

It was hard to focus on the positive, but when I did things started turning around, slowly but surely.
What helped speed up the change was focusing on the positive, by making a gratitude list.

The 3 Steps of a Gratitude list:

1. Write down everything you could possibly be grateful for.
It can be anything, from your looks, your mind, your relationships, your job, school, friends, family, your possessions to the fact that you are alive!
Anything worth being grateful for, write it down.

2. Put the list beside your bed.

3. Every morning when you wake up, look at the list.
Read it through and reflect over how much good there is in your life, how much good there is for you to be happy for.

This shifts your thinking
When you start thinking about what you want your thinking starts to shift away from what you are complaining about and towards what makes life work living, it makes you happier and more focused so that you can work harder, smarter and attract more of what is good in your life into it.

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We can be Heroes – We can be Great

The science of the mind is an interesting field of research. Looking into the mind of successful and unsuccessful people and trying to understand the differences and the similarities. Trying to understand why some reach the stars why others trip on a simple straw.

Many believe that the answer lies in circumstance or some in-born characteristic or that it has to do with your upbringing.
We can all be heroes
I believe it has to do with your heart.
Do you have the courage to say no when people want you to do things that obviously aren’t what you should be doing? (like over partying, taking drugs, getting into fights etc.)
Do you have the strength to push on when things are tough?
Can you turn your life around?

If you chose to, you can say yes to all three questions.
It is up to you.

No one is born with a better ability to say no.
No one has a better opportunity of looking at themselves and discovering what their strengths are.

We all have strengths, we can all be incredible, we all are incredible.
Sometimes you just have to say “I want to make a change and I will!”

Start Small
You don’t have to change your life around today.
Start with small steps.

Either you can start by setting a goal for your dream life or you can just think of one step you can take now that would make your life better.
Maybe taking a course at college?
Switching jobs? Changing social cirkels? Breaking a bad habit? Developing a positive habit?

We all have something we can change for the better.
The question is, do you want to?

It takes effort
Any change takes effort, the reward is incredible, but it takes effort to start.
Once you start it all gets easier, but taking that first step can be frightening.

I want to help you take that first step, I want to be the voice in your head telling you “You can do this, you can do anything!”

Because with a voice in your head telling you that you are great, you can be great, you can do anything!

If you really want to change your life, it is in your hands, it is up to you.

Two ways to begin
I like to start by setting a goal.
By sitting down and thinking things through, being tactical.

In this article you can read about the 7 steps to setting a good goal.

But many like to take action quickly, get started, and that doesn’t have to be wrong. Just make sure to make time down the road to make goals and plans. But begin now, that is good!

Answer the question;
What action can I take today that will make my life better in the future?

Take action on your answer and start immediately.
Why wait for a better life longer than you need to?

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ANNOUNCING: The Time Management Expert Course

It’s finally here!
I’ve been writing and editing for six (very long) months.

Now I’m pleased to formally announce:

The Time Management Expert Course
Fireworks
This post isn’t designed to ‘sell’ you on this product.
Instead I’ll answer a question I’ve received a few times: “How much will it cost?”

Right now, this course is being offered at a price that’s pretty low considering what’s included.
We only charge 19.97 USD/month for the 5 month course.
I have been told multiple times that I should at least double the price, but I see no reason to. I am pleased with the price and I don’t want to charge any more than that.

The bad news is that the program has been very, very popular so far.
We will only be able to accept about 100 members to the course and we opened the gates for the early notification list yesterday.
Already over 50 have signed up and we have a very limited number of spots left.

Don’t fret though, if you go to the Time Management Expert Course home page you can sign up and start on the course at once.

I look forward to working with you and I hope you find the benefits of more time as rewarding as so many others have.
Good luck!

Join the Time Management Expert Course!

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If You Don’t Want to be Doing What You Are Doing – Make a Change!

“I was wrong”
How many times have you said this in your life?
My guess is, not many.

How many times have you been wrong?
If I haven’t guessed completely wrong, more than once.
Sad that an idea went sour
Owning up to a mistake is nothing most people are good at and it often costs us, especially when it keeps us from seeing the truth and keeps us from giving up on a project doomed to failure.

Good ideas gone bad
When starting a new project it usually feels great, it cannot go anywhere but up, you will succeed and you will get the fame and recognition that comes with it!
But as time goes by, things stop going as well; your success takes a turn for the worse.

You start brainstorming to come up with ideas to salvage the project and you might get a break through.

But sometimes a market and your product isn’t salvageable; as when the computer was invented, it was a lost cause for companies making type writers, the market vanished.
It feels obvious to us now that companies making typewriters should have quickly left the market for other things, but many stayed on to the bitter end.

The problem is that not all have the courage to face reality and see that your project, even though it was a good idea at the onset, just isn’t a good idea anymore.

“But if we stop now all the time and energy we have put into it will have been wasted.”
This is true, but what happens if you keep putting time and energy into the project and don’t get any payoff down the road either?
What if you start on a new project that has better chances of success?

The flip side – the two motivators
I am worried though as I write this article that I will get many people to give up on projects, most projects aren’t doomed even if they might seem so now. Psychologists have proven that the closer you get to achieving your goal the more motivated you get to complete it.

Feels logical doesn’t it?

But what they have found is that at the same time you become more afraid of failure and want to go up.
What is really sad is that the fear of failure increases faster than the motivation to complete.
This means that just before you complete your goal your whole being is telling you “Give up! Run away!”

Success is truly one step beyond failure
This is something I always repeat to myself when I feel like giving up, if my body is sending me the emotion that I should give up, surrender, it is because I am only one step away from success.
That is why I am so afraid!

The lessons from todays post

1. Your emotions will fool you.
when you feel like giving up, that is exactly when you need to continue and push on!

2. Your mind will tell you when a project is doomed.
Your logical mind can see that a project is on its way to ruin if you listen to it. Your rational mind, can way in the larger issues and smaller issues that are threatening your project. If it turns out that your project is doomed, quickly give it up, salvage what you can and move on to a project with a brighter future.

Always make sure though that it is your rational mind you are following and not your emotions, because if it is your emotions you are listening to, you are probably only one step away from success.

The Time Management Course Opens Tomorrow!
Make sure not to miss your chance to save over 2000 hours/year.
Only the first 100 people will be able to join!

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We Go Live Tomorrow!

The Time Management Expert Course comes out tomorrow!
We have been working hard to make it as good a program as possible for you, and after hearing from our beta testers, are sure that we have succeeded!

This is what is included in the course:
The system revolves around knowing exactly what you should do, now, at this very moment.
We get there by combining your recurring tasks and your unexpected tasks with your ideas and goals.

In my old job I had very many recurring tasks, I was a sales manager so I knew that I had group meetings, individual coaching, my own selling and prospecting and sporadically recruitment. In my new job as a sales and marketing manager I have very few recurring tasks, no two weeks are the same. I still use the same system, but I have more focus on unexpected tasks now than I used to.

The Course is delivered as 24 Lessons:

Lesson 1: Course and System Overview
Lesson 2: Mindsets – Quadrant 2 Mindset, Single-Minded Focus, Start With The Most Important Task
Lesson 3: Weekly Plan
Lesson 4: Daily Prioritization
Lesson 5: Your Calendar
Lesson 6: Monthly and Yearly Plans
Lesson 7: The 80/20 Rule and Your 3 Most Important Tasks
Lesson 8: Bringing the first half of the equation together
Lesson 9: Inbox Overview
Lesson 10: Writing Things Down
Lesson 11: Filling Your Inbox
Lesson 12: Emptying Your Inbox
Lesson 13: Project Planning
Lesson 14: Adding to Calendar
Lesson 15: Filing
Lesson 16: Reviewing the Complete System
Lesson 17: Delegating
Lesson 18: Following up on Delegation
Lesson 19: What to do When Others Delegate UP to You
Lesson 20: The 80/20 Rule on Deleting Un-Important Tasks
Lesson 21: The Complete System
Lesson 22: Tweaking and Improving
Lesson 23: Where to go From Here
Lesson 24: You Are Now a Time Management Expert

You can both read the lessons in text format or download them as mp3s and listen to them anywhere.

In addition, I’m offering a few extras:
1. 13 articles on stress management
Which teach you to better handle stress and multiple techniques to help you let go of unnecessary stress.

2. Procrastination Resources
During the next couple of months this is going to be a big focus point for me, so far we have added 3 articles on procrastination that all can make a huge difference in conquering this habit. During the next month we plan on adding many more to help you completely rid yourself of the bad habit of procrastination.

The Goal of the program
We want to save you over 2000 hours/year – giving you over 2 months of waking time to spend as you wish!

You can use this time anyway you want, I know people who would love to be able to balance their life better and spend more time with their family, people who would love to be more efficient at work or in school so that you can produce better results or just feel that time is the most precious resource we have, so why not spend it well?

In any case, the time management expert course will help you gain more of the precious resource, time!

We go live tomorrow!

Make sure to visit The Time Management Course home page tomorrow to sign up.
Sadly we will only be able to accept the first 100 members to join and as we have seen on our early notification list, these 100 spots will be filled up soon.

Make sure to get your spot!

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