Seeing the truth about you is a difficult exercise. Seeing your faults and your short comings is hard for anyone to accept. The Ego has a very hard time accepting anything negative about yourself.
But if you don’t it will cause you a lot of problems down the line.
If you can see what you need to improve a lot of the problems you are facing will start to dissolve. All your problems start with you, so if you change, your problems will change as well.
If you face your short comings it will change you
What is interesting is that just realizing what you do wrong changes you. You start to view yourself differently and you start to look at the world with a different set of eyes.
I have always had a bit of a temper problem.
If I am tired or hungry I can very quickly get annoyed and angry. This is a fault I share with thousands of others, but it doesn’t make it, or my actions, excusable.
I used to flare up very easily and verbally assault people around me if I felt that they were being stupid or annoying.
When I first confronted this problem it was hard for me to accept. I didn’t want to realize that I was doing anything wrong. I always had reasons for my feelings!
But when I finally got past the initial struggle I started to realize that it was my decision if I was going to get grumpy or if I would try to stay as happy as possible.
If doesn’t make me feel better when I get angry at people and it doesn’t help my relationships with them.
In a logical order it is therefore better for me to just shut up if I am feeling too angry to participate civilized in a discussion.
The more I have focused on it the better I have become at keeping that annoyance at bay.
Seeing your faults lets you fix them
The larger issue is that if you do not know what you are doing wrong you will not be able to fix it.
Staring yourself in the mirror and accepting what you see is the first step on the path to improvement.
Think about all you have accomplished so far
Just because you aren’t perfect doesn’t mean you aren’t pretty good. It is just a chance to become even better.
To soothe your ego and make it easier to accept your faults, write down everything you have done well and that you are proud of. Take that list with you on your mission to improve, keep it as a safety blanket, proof that you, even though you aren’t perfect, are pretty good.
Think about your failures
It is when we fail we have a chance to learn, but only if we ask ourselves why we failed.
If you do you will find things you can improve on and find some of your short comings, it is a good place to start.
Ask yourself these 3 questions:
1. Why did I fail?
2. Was it in anyway my fault?
3. What did I do? Or didn’t do that caused this?
The answers to these questions should lend you considerable insight into yourself and shed light on the areas you need to improve.
It is okay to fail, as long as you learn.
This can be a depressing exercise, but if you can learn from it you will come out stronger and proud of yourself.
Constantly improving is the key to success. You have the opportunity to make your next endeavor that much more successful.
Start making change – 3 steps to take
1. Accept that you aren’t perfect today, that there are areas to improve.
2. Start identifying the areas that you could be better in.
3. Take action and start improving, slowly, but surely.
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