Stress management exists in many forms; in the last article we discussed several mindsets and techniques to help you be better at handling stressful situations.
Today I want to discuss your self-talk when handling stress. What you tell yourself helps handling the emotional stress of the situation and lets you use the problem focused techniques we discussed last time.
1. Preparing for the stressor (The stressful situation)
- What do I need to do?
- I can work out a plan and deal with it.
- Remember, stick to the issues and don’t take it personally.
- Stop worrying. Worrying won’t help anything.
2. Confronting and handling the stressor (situation)
- As long as I keep my cool, I am in control of the situation.
- I can meet this challenge. This tension is just a cue to use my stress management techniques.
- Don’t think about stress, just about what I have to do.
- Take a deep breath and relax. Ah, good.
3. Coping with the feeling of being overwhelmed.
- Keep my focus on the present. What is it I have to do?
- Relax and slow things down.
- Don’t try and eliminate stress totally; Just keep it manageable.
- Let’s take the issue point by point.
4. Evaluation and Self-Reinforcement.
- OK, what worked and what can I do better next time?
- I handled it pretty well.
- It didn’t work, but that is OK. I’ll do better next time.
- Way to go! You did it!
Whenever you are in a stressful situation, repeat these statements to yourself, they will help you gain control and put you in a mindset to handle the situation.
By controlling your mind you control your emotions and your actions, you put yourself back in the driver’s seat, which in itself reduces stress greatly.
In the Time Management Expert Course we teach techniques to help reduce stress and a system to make you more efficient which in turn gives you a better starting point to handling new stressful situations.
If you want to learn more, check out the Time Management Expert Course home page.