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Stress management exists in many forms; in the last article we discussed several mindsets and techniques to help you be better at handling stressful situations.
Today I want to discuss your self-talk when handling stress. What you tell yourself helps handling the emotional stress of the situation and lets you use the problem focused techniques we discussed last time.
1. Preparing for the stressor (The stressful situation)
Self Statements:
- What do I need to do?
- I can work out a plan and deal with it.
- Remember, stick to the issues and don’t take it personally.
- Stop worrying. Worrying won’t help anything.
2. Confronting and handling the stressor (situation)
Self Statements:
- As long as I keep my cool, I am in control of the situation.
- I can meet this challenge. This tension is just a cue to use my stress management techniques.
- Don’t think about stress, just about what I have to do.
- Take a deep breath and relax. Ah, good.
3. Coping with the feeling of being overwhelmed.
Self Statements:
- Keep my focus on the present. What is it I have to do?
- Relax and slow things down.
- Don’t try and eliminate stress totally; Just keep it manageable.
- Let’s take the issue point by point.
4. Evaluation and Self-Reinforcement.
Self Statements:
- OK, what worked and what can I do better next time?
- I handled it pretty well.
- It didn’t work, but that is OK. I’ll do better next time.
- Way to go! You did it!
Whenever you are in a stressful situation, repeat these statements to yourself, they will help you gain control and put you in a mindset to handle the situation.
By controlling your mind you control your emotions and your actions, you put yourself back in the driver’s seat, which in itself reduces stress greatly.
In the Time Management Expert Course we teach techniques to help reduce stress and a system to make you more efficient which in turn gives you a better starting point to handling new stressful situations.
If you want to learn more, check out the Time Management Expert Course home page.
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Hey hi Daniel,
This was an awesome post man,just what i wanted………………..I mean my days are going hectic,I am facing failure and it simply seems like too much,I have probably started feeling like it’s impossible to get that success back and get back into the competition again.I really stressed out these days,I am not able to put that much amount of effort into it,really get dissheartened.This thing seems insurmountable.It seems I will never be able to put that much amount of effort again.
Well this post has lots to offer me,I would like to take that positive approach and hope that would help me better in coping with these type of situations.I think this is the way to develop a positive approach towards approaching your goals and everyone pursuing personal development feels that stress while in the period of faliure and hence he should keep a positive outlook and keep on moving forward despite those periods of utter disappointments.Hope things get back good again soon for me ……….
Thanx again!
Keep the good work going!
Hi Dilpreet,
I am glad I could help!
You can always turn things around.
I have been in times where I was without a job, without an apartment, 30 000 USD in debt and I have turned it around.
So can you!